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Why men stay single
Dr."M"
Dr."M" a 35 year old Faculty Professor, lived in the US for 7 years while studying for his masters and PhD degree. When he got back to Egypt he wanted to catch up on what other family members and friends had done like getting married and starting a family. His mother had warned him "don't get involved with a foreign woman, you are really a good catch and there are lots of available girls here in their late twenties and if you have the intention you will find lots of suitable brides to choose from". With that in mind he started his journey of finding the suitable bride and he told me that during the past year he had seen more than 20 potential brides.
Definitely it was time for me to ask my second question (what are you searching for?) and the answer was: a well educated, cultured women who comes from a good family similar to mine but most of all she must be family oriented. I don't need a beauty queen, an average good looking woman but not veiled and the important thing is that she still lives by our traditions and social values.
Those aren't hard criteria to find! So why didn't you find the right girl between the many you met. The answer was: most of the ones I saw didn't know what family values were, they were either too spoilt or too work oriented. Another point was the need to find a click.
I gathered from all the above that I wasn't in need of asking the forth question it was obvious he was open to arranged marriages. The question now was why? And the answer was quick and logical: I lived abroad for almost 7 years and when I got back all my friends were already married and my social circle became very small. Another point was arranged marriages are less risky because the girl, her family and her social standard are already known to you and recommended by a family member or friend. In addition it is the easiest way because of our social barriers and the limited time I have during the day.
At that point I knew I had to move to the fifth question. Dr "M" replied that it was very hard to approach a girl you like after seeing her in the club or in a coffee shop and that even with common friends they do not accept to go out with a man they don't know. Girls always think that men are ill intentioned when they want to hook up.
At that point I had to return to question 4. About that Dr "M" said: I don't think intimate affairs are the reason for neither marriage nor not getting married.
Regarding career women Dr. "M" told me that he do not mind having a working wife as long as she knew how to balance her work and her family duties.
And as an answer to my final question, Dr."M" replied clearly yes that women are over picky and that they want the position, the money, the big car, the villa and an exaggerated ÇáãåÑ and this was either because daddy spoiled her and she wants to maintain the same lifestyle or because she accomplished something with her career and expected the man to do much more.
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